Holiday Hope
December 9, 2014 Dr. Allen Novian The holidays always seem to be filled with more expectations than excitement, which can bring out the...
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May 10, 20134 min read
Fighting Fair: part 2
by Brianne Lutterman, MA, NCC, LPC-Intern On the last section, I talked about venting your relationship problems with your...
May 8, 20133 min read
Fighting Fair: Venting in Relationhips
By Brianne Lutterman, MA, NCC, LPC-Intern Supervised by Dr. Allen Novian, PhD, LMFT, LPC-S Hello, My name is Brianne Lutterman, and I am...
Sep 30, 20111 min read
Stages of Forgiveness: Stage 6
By Dr. Allen Novian Stage 6: Develop Genuine Neutrality Hopefully, in the process of forgiveness, you will come to resolve any negative...
Sep 28, 20112 min read
Stages of Forgiveness: Stage 4
By Dr. Allen Novian on September 28, 2011 Stage 4: Stop Punishing one of the common behaviors of people is to try to punish those who...
Sep 15, 20112 min read
Stages of Forgiveness: Stage 3
By Dr. Allen Novian Stage 3: Submit to a feeling of Vulnerability The next stage in forgiveness is to open yourself to change and...
Sep 6, 20111 min read
Stages of Forgiveness: Stage 2
By Dr. Allen Novian Stage 2: Acknowledge the Loss and Consequences In order to fully forgive, you need to look at the consequences of the...
Aug 23, 20112 min read
Stages of Forgiveness: Stage 1
By Dr. Allen Novian on August 23, 2011 There are 7 stages of forgiveness and they are as follows: Stage 1: Admit you are angry! Stage 2:...
Apr 8, 20111 min read
Stages of Forgiveness Part 1
Moving from Anger and Resentment to Compassion and Love Much has been written about forgiveness. Everywhere you turn people are saying...
Sep 21, 20102 min read
New Directions
By Dr. Allen Novian There are always reasons to take a new direction in life, whether it be the clothes you wear, the job you do, the...
Jun 23, 20102 min read
An Exercise in Gratitude
By Dr. Allen Novian This exercise is meant to encourage healthy, positive conversations. Often, couples get so caught up in the negative,...
Apr 6, 20103 min read
Building and Maintaining Trust in Relationships
By Dr. Allen Novian Is trust, or the lack of it, affecting your relationship? Because your partner has been “burned” in a previous...
Mar 29, 20102 min read
When the Honeymoon is over
By Dr. Allen Novian Have you ever heard someone say, “The honeymoon is over,”? When problems crop up in a relationship or marriage, they...
Dec 1, 20091 min read
Holiday Blues
By Dr. Allen Novian During the holidays, there is an expectation of connection and joy. We are supposed to get together with family,...
Oct 13, 20092 min read
C's of the Marrried Relationship Part 4
By Dr. Allen Novian The final C is Compassion. Acting out of compassion for your spouse and yourself in all things is vital to...
Oct 12, 20091 min read
C's of the Married Relationship Part 3
By Dr. Allen Novian How do we communicate when we can’t stop arguing? Most people look at communication as getting a point across. I...
Oct 8, 20092 min read
C's of the Married Relationship Part 2
By Dr. Allen Novian Communication issues are probably the most common reason that couples come to see me for therapy. Couples will often...
Oct 6, 20092 min read
C's of the Married Relationship Part 1
By Dr. Allen Novian Couples come into my office with many complaints, but usually their problems boil down to at least one of three core...
Jul 13, 20097 min read
Gottman's Four Horsemen
John Gottman PhD is one of the leading researchers in marital therapy over the last 30 years. He has done all types of research on what...
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